(VALUE-CENTERED RELATIONSHIPS)
Spiritual, Self Help, Relationships / Zen
Date Published: October 15, 2022
Build your relationships upon an Unshakeable Foundation, based upon Eternal
Principles of Real Love.
Based upon the teachings of All World Scriptures, including Zen, the book
explores the difference between Real and Counterfeit Love. As we do, it is
easy to see that all suffering in relationships is due to being caught in
the trap of Counterfeit Love.
This is a Book of Practice, which provides many insights, exercises,
turning points and interventions, so we can apply the powerful principles in
all our relationships.
As we do, pain, upset and conflict dissolve on the spot.
EXCERPT
EMBARKING ON THE JOURNEY
“The Whole World Is Medicine.
What Is the Illness?”
We are all treasure hunters, looking for the secret to fulfilling relationships. Usually, we believe the secret lies in finding the right person, acquiring the best relationship skills and learning to communicate our needs more clearly. Our relationships are usually dedicated to finding happiness, getting our needs met, being powerful or in charge. Basically, we are using our relationships to feel good about ourselves.
However, despite all our efforts, relationships often become a source of pain and suffering. Conflict, anger, disappointment and loneliness arise endlessly. And many times, when a partner stops supplying our needs, what felt like love one day turns to rejection the next.
When our thoughts are primarily absorbed with what we are needing and receiving, or how to build ourselves up, we live in a prison without bars. It becomes impossible to truly see the person we are with, or what is going on in front of our eyes. Any slight, real or imagined, can become the cause of distress, causing us to withdraw. Any perceived failure or rejection invites underlying feelings of worthlessness to emerge, producing additional depression and stress. The harder we try to make things right, the more complicated they can become. How can we ever find fulfillment in this manner?
About the Author
Brenda is a psychologist, author, speaker, playwright and long term
practitioner of Zen.
Her work focuses upon integrating the practices and principles of East and
West and making them real in our everyday lives.
Brenda offers on going Zen talks for the Morningstar Zen community, founded
by Fr. Robert Kennedy, Roshi. She has spent many years involved in
Interfaith work and dialogue. She also offered talks on Zen and Psychology
at the New York Zendo for eight years.
For the past four years Brenda has presented a weekly podcast, Zen Wisdom
For Your Everyday Life. Over the years she has provided many talks ad
workshops dealing with personal and spiritual development and living an
authentic, meaningful life.
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