How to Stop Negative Thoughts and Emotions and Live a Positive Productive Life.
Date Published: 6/15/21
Publisher: Blue Sails Publishing
We live in uncertain times and due to this anxiety rules over manys daily lives. The spiral of toxic thoughts can leave you paralyzed, In this book you will find many ways to overcome your negative self defeating thoughts and behaviours. From meditation, daily routine improvement , C.B.T therapy skills, healthy habits and much more. This is a tool kit designed to help you stop negative thoughts and emotions as well as tips on how to live your best life with no regrets. I personally have struggled with my own self defeating thoughts and emotions and through these steps I was able to take control of my life.
Chapter 1: How to Go After What You Want
When something does not cause us noticeable harm, we believe it is okay to continue doing it. For this reason, poor habits, routines, and chronic stress go seemingly unnoticed until we are facing more severe concerns regarding our health and wellbeing.
The danger of a poor routine is that you do not notice it. For example, doing the dishes after dinner: if you are not in the habit of doing them, they will pile up until the next morning. The next morning, you may not have time or may have other plans about how to spend your morning so the dishes pile up again until dinner. You then end up making dinner with limited dishes or you have to take time to wash a pan just to dirty it again. Not initially doing the dishes did not cause you any harm but now it will probably cause considerable frustration.
A routine is a series of actions that you usually perform, often starting around the same time every day. It is a set of activities that have become your norm. In society we can usually pinpoint what has become a norm and there are a lot of cases where societal norms influence people’s lives negatively. It is the same with our personal, daily norms; they have the power to help or hinder our growth as a person.
You stress about following a routine and there are steps that you can take to ensure that designing a routine does not add to your list of worries. Similarly as you form a habit, forming a routine takes time, patience, and practice to become the norm of your life. You should have routines that you are proud of for almost every aspect of your life such as waking up, going to bed, starting your workday, spending time with family, and more. Chances are, if you brush your teeth, wash your face, and change into pajamas, you already have a bedtime routine but there are aspects of that routine that you can improve. The same can be said with every other action you take throughout your day.
About the Author
Born and raised in Calgary alberta I am 28 years old.I enjoy writing, walking my dog watching movies and being out in nature. when im not working on a new book Im out with my dog enjoying nature and the fresh air.
C’mon, Let’s Play!” shares methods for the readers to
play with that can help them change their lives. Here, Suberla reflects on
her life journey, and uses her own examples of good and bad choices to give
practical advice on how to achieve your goals. With humor, she shares her
approach to making some life changing choices including how she became a
hippie in the late 60s and early 70s, to her decision to retire early from
her corporate job. Dee also shares her process for how she moved through
breast cancer. By sharing her personals story, the author demonstrates the
importance of how one’s thoughts and beliefs determine the life that
he or she leads and how anyone can get more living in life by playing with
the concepts in this book.
Me and My Numb Spots
One pill makes you larger, and one pill makes you small;
and the ones that mother gives you don’t do anything at all.
I have numb spots in my brain. I’m always surprised when they take
an active role in my life, being numb spots and all. Sometimes when
something very dramatic happens, I don’t feel things—mentally,
physically, or emotionally. Of course, at other times you might find me
weeping while watching puppies or a brilliant sunset.
Over the years, I’ve done a lot of research, learning and observing,
and have integrated the best of it into this book to serve as an entry
point for those looking for a way to move forward. I love knowing that
my résumé, the work I do, my education, my financial circumstances,
and my previous experiences do not define me. Nor do the roles I play
in this world or any of those questionable choices I’ve made over the
years (although many of those choices, as it turns out, make darn good
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My questionable choices serve as great examples of how a person
can transcend his or her circumstances and ignite his or her own power
to live a life filled with wonder, beauty, and passion. For me, it’s all
about learning and moving forward—just moving forward in love and
joy. When I discovered my purpose, I was so grateful that I could live
the life that I wanted to live but felt disconnected from the possibility
of it happening. And then I discovered my power, and quite honestly,
it turns out we do have superpowers!
Hello, I’m Dee Suberla. I help people figure out what they really
want in their lives, and then I help them get out of their own way so
it can happen!
I believe we are all aspects of the same thing, lovely facets of a
single jewel, separate waves on the ocean, clusters of particles in the
same universal soup. I believe that because inside the real me and the
real you—at our very cores—are those tiny specks that God blessed
us with; some call them souls or spirits. Everything in the universe is
connected—yes, including my numb spots.
This took me a while to learn or, more truthfully, to believe. Now
I know that I’m here to engage life through the passions that drive me.
Part of all this, in my case, is that I have numb spots due to the fact that I
need them; they help me in my work, and I believe I access them during
times when objectivity is required. Turns out they’re quite useful.
So how does one go about developing numb spots? I think there
must be a million ways. I believe that my original numb spots were
there when I was born. I can remember occasionally spacing out at a
very young age. The earliest memory of this was the time I forgot to
put my hand down after a vote was over. Some of the parents in our
neighborhood were creating a new club for girls my age. They asked
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for suggestions, and I suggested the name Us Guys. The lady in charge
suggested we change it to Us Gals. By a show of hands, we voted and
agreed. The name Us Gals won hands down—well, one hand was still
up. I was talking to my girlfriend well after the vote was over, with
that darn hand stuck up in the air like some sort of spaced-out flagpole.
“Put your hand down,” my friend Toni whispered. For a second
there, I looked up at it completely confused. What the heck? As I slid my
hand down to my lap, I wondered how someone could forget something
like that and became extremely concerned. I immediately imagined
that all those nightmares about forgetting to get dressed before school
could really come true.
The numb spots, which are actually ischemic scar tissue, are located
around the base of my brain and my amygdala. The doctor suggested
that as a cave woman, I would have had a short life because the scar tissue
would have messed with my “fight, flight, or freeze” responses—key
instincts that would have signaled the presence of a gigantic dinosaur
and triggered flight.
I started smoking cigarettes in eighth grade, about a pack a week.
As time went on, I discovered the joy of altered states. By sophomore
year in high school, I discovered the magical properties of marijuana,
white cross, and psilocybin. After graduation, I fell in love with
prescription barbiturates and diet pills, and for a while, I continued my
experimentation. I occasionally became one gigantic numb spot. I think
I may have seen a dinosaur or two and tried to carry on a conversation—
literally incapable of running at some points.
My guess is that the numb spots I was born with must have been
filled with lost memories of the sense my parents knocked into me. And
realistically, I probably created a few more with “experimentation.” I
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am grateful to be here to tell this story. Many of my classmates didn’t
make it. Ah, the seventies. I am truly a survivor!
I was the baby of the family. Mom and Dad had five children.
They had the first three, and when the youngest was around twelve,
my mother prepared to go to work as a Welcome Wagon lady. She
had lovely black-and-white photos taken that I found decades later.
She never got to experience the Welcome Wagon lady job because she
got pregnant. My sister Suzie was born, and my parents immediately
decided to have another baby so Suzie had a playmate. Yep, that’s right.
That was me; I was born to play. In retrospect, I might have pushed the
envelope a bit on that one.
My amazing parents never had a chance with me, partially because
they were the same age as my friends’ grandparents. There was a brief
period of time when they thought that I might be losing my mind and
considered sending me away, but instead we went to a craft store, and they
bought me a tiger-striped rug craft project. They even let me pick out
different colors—my favorites, red and black. But what was really going
on was that I had discovered a few things about becoming a hippie at
thirteen, and my parents never imagined that I was turning into an addict.
They thought that my ability to sit and stare at a wall for so long was an
indication of extreme boredom hovering on madness. I was just stoned.
I usually refused to take aspirin or any over-the-counter pill that
Mom offered when I wasn’t feeling well, primarily because it seemed
pointless; there was absolutely no recreational value. Mom was certain
that I just didn’t like to take pills of any kind, unlike so many of those
wild kids she heard about on the nightly news.
My parents let us taste the liquor they kept in the liquor cabinet and
told us if we ever wanted to drink that we should do it at home. It all
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tasted terrible to me, and as a result, Mom called me her little teetotaler.
I was quite confident they would never figure out that I was a drugcrazed teen with a fake ID going to bars in a neighboring state—where
I discovered the amazing elixir Lambrusco!
My sister and I were blessed with curly hair, but we thought it was
some sort of cruel and unusual punishment. So we did the sensible
thing and used Mom’s iron and ironing board to straighten out each
other’s unruly locks. Then one day Mom showed me a picture of a girl
in a magazine who had the same kind of hair as mine. But this girl had
just split her hair down the middle and let it go wild. The magazine
called it a hairstyle! It was wild, I loved it, and the text below the picture
suggested that all the hippies were doing it! Then my amazing mother
said these inspiring words to her very naughty thirteen-year-old baby
girl: “Don’t ever let me catch you doing this with your hair!”
I remember the first time I set my hair free and went out in public. I
carefully selected an outfit to wear to the carnival. I chose my torn red,
white, and blue–striped jeans, a navy-blue tank top, and my stars-andstripes gym shoes. I finished the outfit off with a beautiful white fringed
shawl that Mom had made for me. It was supposed to be dressy. It was
shimmery, but I claimed it for this outfit. It had fringe, for crying out loud,
and that made it perfect for this budding hippie! My friend and I wandered
around the carnival doing our best to look cool, and then she gave me
the most amazing compliment. “Dee, you really do look like a hippie.”
I’d made it! I may have worn that exact outfit for a month, and yes,
it was washed regularly. Mom did have some very firm boundaries.
So now I was a hippie, and I guess I took it to the extreme, but
come on—I had the hair! And yes, this is the part of the journey that
may have contributed to the expansion of my numb spots.
About the Author
Dee G Suberla is best known for her expertise in project management. Of
course, she didn’t start out that way, no she started writing poetry
at an early age, then became a resource for people she worked with in the
pharmaceutical industry when there was a need to write something
particularly tricky. When she reflected on the favorite parts of her job it
came down to coaching; she loved helping people to set and achieve their
goals. Coaching wasn’t in her job description but it was a passion
that she pursued after she became a consultant and wrote her first book to
help new project managers called Poof You’re a Project Manager and
Other Delusions of Grandeur. Recently, she was compelled to write
C’mon Let’s play to share what she had learned with people who
felt stuck, helpless or were looking for something new. Whether Dee is
career coaching, life coaching or coaching somewhere in between, she shares
much of this information with her clients and wrote this book to reach a
In a time of emotional upheaval, change, and uncertainty, The House offers us a story of hope, with new and empowering perspectives. This two-part awakening journey speaks to the wounded child, left to believe they were anything less than pure magic, who lives within all of us.
As we learn how to open ourselves up to divine grace, to embrace our shadows, and see life’s challenges as opportunities for growth, only then can we gain the keys needed to free ourselves from our self-imposed prison of limiting beliefs.
By helping one go within ‘The House,’ to see all that has been stored, hidden, and cast aside there, one can discover their brilliant truth. By going within, we find what lies at the core of the human experience: compassion, forgiveness, and love.
In this pivotal time of restructuring on a global level, as we strive to create a New World, with a solid foundation based upon peace and harmony, we need to begin with ourselves first.
With joyful surrender, courage, and trust in the process, our vision that truly anything is possible will become clear.
“As the family begins to create their new world according to the child’s desire, by planting the good seeds of positivity and hope, they unknowingly plant the bad seeds alongside, for they are one in the same. The child is the seed, you see…
They intend to create a world of unconditional love, however, since everything ‘bad’ has been locked away, it is blocking the ‘good’ from fully rooting. The child doesn’t know that to grow your own Heaven on the Earth, the good must be able to wrap its arms around the bad, through forgiveness.”
About the Author
Dr. Melissa Crane has committed herself to a path of self-discovery and spiritual awakening. She willfully shares the wisdom she has gained and received, through her personal experiences and divinely channeled messages, with those who also seek to discover, remember, and awaken to the truth of who they are.
As a Holistic Chiropractor and Massage Therapist, Melissa has spent countless hours supporting and helping her clients heal through physical and emotional trauma.
Melissa now shares her wisdom and experience through teaching the sacred union of feminine, masculine and the child within; through traversing the dark night of the soul; by expounding the wisdom of Mother Earth; and by teaching you how to connect with Spirit.
Melissa serves as a Wayshower, a Teacher, a Healer, and a Guide to help you live a life of freedom and authenticity, and to assist you in co-creating your Heaven upon this New Earth.
My life has been a roller coaster filled with loss, pain, illness, failure,
heartache and suffering. (Life can be so much fun, right?) It has also been
filled with PURE JOY – the joy of spiritual awakening, wonderful people,
world travel, long bike rides, hiking up mountains and the heart-warming
adventures that come from taking the road less traveled. When I was 23 I had
a profound spiritual enlightenment experience and since then my life has
been about exploring how I can wake up to that state more fully and help
others to as well. This book shares my adventurous and ultimately triumphant
story of finding happiness through inner transformation. It explains how
going “crazy” can actually be a good thing and how when things
fall apart, that’s the doorway to something more.I believe that
we’re all in this together. It is my hope that by sharing what I know
others can find joy in the middle of their own difficulties and ultimately
find their way home.
Oprah says, “There is a calling on your life. Your job is to know that and to find that.” Listening to and following these callings takes courage. It’s the courage necessary to be different from other people around you, to let go of things that seem comfortable, to be willing to fall. There is no guarantee of success and no guarantee of ease.
It took time, a lot of time, to figure out what I really wanted from life. As a young twenty-something I had wanted to work for the United Nations to help those who needed help the most in the world – refugees, women, and children. As empathic as I am, I sincerely wanted to alleviate the suffering of others.
What I didn’t realize for some time was that my path of helping others might look very different from a conventional, professional path. It took chronic illness and leaving everything I knew to notice that what has helped me through everything, what keeps me excited about waking up in the morning, is spiritual at its core. Andthat perhaps I can best be of service in this world by owning that and helping others to know their own version of spirituality, spiritual awakening and inner peace.
I’ve heard it said, “Every problem is a spiritual problem.” No matter what goes on in our daily lives, what tragedy or even joyful problem (like being so successful that you don’t have time to fit everything in), the roots of our very existence rest in something spiritual. Once we figure out that we are not what happens to us, but we are that which lives behind or within what happens to us, the world becomes lighter and easier to navigate. Once we know that earth is a school (largely thanks to Eckhart Tolle’s book, A New Earth), that we are not really separate from one another and that we are here to learn and grow in consciousness, in love, then we are better able to help ourselves, others, and the planet.
About the Author
Kimberly Herndon has traveled the world and studied various spiritual paths
to enlightenment to determine what makes us truly happy. Kimberly has a
bachelor’s degree in International Studies from the University of Washington
in Seattle. She also has a master’s degree in Theological Studies from the
Iliff School of Theology in Denver, Colorado. She is from Overland Park,
Kansas, and lives in Denver with her boyfriend, their human baby and two fur
Publisher: Skyhorse Publishing; ebook distributed by Simon & Schuster
Married for 33 years, David, a divorce lawyer, and Julie, a family therapist, have both been witness to families struggling with life’s most difficult challenges. At the same time, they have weathered their own challenges at home: raising four daughters, two biological and two adopted, and dealing with one child’s mental health and behavioral issues. What they’ve learned about saving a marriage or knowing when to call it quits, when to turn to professionals or when to try tough love, could fill a book—and it does.
“In compiling this book, we did not spend hours researching, studying, or constructing and analyzing a ‘love lab’ as John Gottman did in his The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Our lab is our work. Our lab is our experience; it is late night phone calls, emails, texts and working with clients in our offices or coffee shops. Our lab is our home, the challenges we have faced as a couple, as lovers, as friends and as parents. Through our conversations that have stretched over years, our lab brings out the good, exposes the bad and lays bare the ugly.”
About the Authors
JULIE BULITT is a licensed clinical social worker who has spent more than 25 years working with individuals, couples and families. Her private practice focuses on family, couples and individual therapy, ADHD and Executive Functioning coaching. She has served as a Clinical Supervisor and Early Childhood Mental Health Consultant for the Montgomery County (Maryland) Mental Health Association, an Adoption Therapist for the Center for Support and Education in suburban Washington, D.C. She presently serves as the in-house therapist for The Discovery Channel in Silver Spring, Maryland. For more,, visit www.livesane.com.
DAVID BULITTis a partner in the Washington, D.C. Metro law firm of Joseph, Greenwald & Laake, PA. For more than a decade, he has been chosen as one of the area’s top divorce lawyers by multiple publications and recognized as one of the “Best Lawyers in America” and a Washington, D.C. Metro “Super Lawyer.” Praised as “the lawyer who epitomizes stability and old fashioned common sense” by Bethesda Magazine, David has a particular interest in families with special needs children as a result of his personal experiences. He is the author of two fiction novels and multiple articles in legal publications and has appeared on several local shows. For more information, visit www.davidbulitt.com.
DAVID AND JULIE have been married for 33 years. They have four daughters, two of whom are biological and two adopted, and three grandchildren. They divide their time between suburban Washington, D.C. and Bethany Beach, Delaware. Learn more about David and Julie at www.thebulitts.com.