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Self-help, Spiritually, Non-fiction
Date Published: April 7, 2020
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Do you want your life to change?
The good news is that it all begins right in your mind.
By opening your mind, you can change your life in 180 degrees, making the phrase “Everything is in your head” more important than ever before.
The perception of reality steers our thoughts, feelings, the choices we make and the way we live our life.
It is the underlying reason why our lives are the way they are.
People who never examine their point of view of the world miss the chance to significantly change their lives.
What shapes our perception is the country we live in, society, culture, religion, parents, teachers, and publications like the internet, television, movies, radio, newspapers, and literature.
Many people are misguided by their perceptions, which constantly get them into problems.
This book, Perception vs. Truth, was born as a result of that insight. As the name suggests, much of the reality we take for granted in our lives simply isn’t true. Perception vs. Truth is a wake-up call for all of us. It is a fascinating read, full of interesting insights. It is a spring to quench one’s thirst for knowledge and understanding. It can open your mind to different ways of thinking, new feelings, and novel behavior.
Perception vs. Truth is a reminder that our lives can change just by changing the way we’re perceiving it.
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Perception vs. Truth

Spirituality in simple words

Eyal Cohen

Preface

My Story

For as long as I can remember, I have had an indescribable desire to understand life. Throughout my life, I always felt that something was missing, but I didn’t know what it was.

In simple words, I kept asking myself, “What the hell is this life all about? What is going on? And why?”

Okay, we go through kindergarten, school, high school, and then college; some get married, have children, find a career, buy a house… But the inevitability of death was like a black cloud that forced me to wonder, “What is it all about?”

As I grew up, this desire became a sense of unease at the back of my mind, which made me feel incomplete and restless.

No one, myself included, could stop me from pondering life. I was desperately searching for the meaning of it all. Of course, at the time, I could not tell where such a search would take me or what innumerable hardships I would have to endure. Later, I learned that if I could work out what was going on with me or what was happening to me, things would be much easier. But there was no one available to help me with this, or at least I didn’t think there was.

In retrospect, this longing brought me into “spectator mode”—observation of the theater of life—a situation in which I was looking at life as a though it was a play, but one in which I was participating, meaning that I identified with the characters on stage.

At around the age of thirty, I experienced a critical and overpowering turning point. After going through a confusing period, I woke up one morning with a dreadful emptiness. It felt like a big black gaping hole had opened in my chest. The words that jump to mind when I remember this feeling are, “all dead!” I had a very acute sense of loss, as though everything I had been until that moment was now gone. All I knew and thought and felt about myself and life in general, had died that morning and I found myself living in a bubble.

There was no connection between me, and reality and life as I knew them.

The feeling could be compared to eating food without the senses of taste and smell; without these basic senses, you lose the desire to eat. And in the same way, I lost the desire to live. What followed was a total collapse of mind and body. I experienced panic attacks, and simply standing up was a struggle. What I remember most is that I knew I had to hold on despite the strong desire to completely collapse, let go, and never get up again, because I did not want to worry my family.

Not able to understand what was happening to me, I did not want to get into a situation where I had to explain myself. Deep down, I felt insulated and lonely, and all I wanted was to be left alone.

Exact words failed me, and all I could describe was a state of tremendous fear, loss of control, and restless hell, and an inability to understand any of it. And so, I lived trapped in a kind of furnace that burned me alive. I was completely detached from reality, and my sense of identity was utterly gone as though it had never even existed.

After a few months, I began to see the simple beauty in my surroundings: a blooming flower, the shining sun, or a simple good morning. I welcomed every one of those little gifts that came my way, and I began to see the simple yet wondrous beauty in everything. And so, I learned to enjoy every little thing in all its greatness.

Despite those newly found comforts, I was still troubled because my fundamental questions about the meaning of life remained unanswered; my inability to find the answers meant that true peace still eluded me.

Over the course of a period that was relatively calm, words started to visit me just as I was on the verge of sleep. I felt a compelling need to write them down, and so I did. At first, words would come only at night, but soon, they began to surprise me at any hour. I would hear a word from someone and all of a sudden, an entire scenario would unfold before me, and I would have to write it down. At that time, I went everywhere with a small notebook, ready to write whatever came to me whenever it came. The material was absorbed into me like into a dry sponge, and I finally realized the answers to my deepest questions.

I realized that the missing part I was looking for in my life was myself.

In this manner, short and concise chapters took shape. After a few months, I had enough written words that the idea of a book came to life. Some of the things that I had written took me a while to understand. It took a while for them to crystallize into a book. 

The book, Perception vs. Truth, is designed to introduce you to yourself. It is designed to introduce you to a different perspective of you and the world, one that you may not be accustomed to. Furthermore, it is designed to enable you to see how you are influenced and how you can influence yourself and your surroundings.

Perception vs. Truth holds the answers to all the questions that took me on a life-changing journey. I hope that reading it will inspire you to find your own answers to life.

Eyal.

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Wisdom of Water

Wisdom of Water means that whatever I write, I’m not necessarily trying to say something concrete. You may say that I am painting with words. My writing is a set of different perspectives on each situation. I am not trying to make a specific point; I just wish to maintain awareness of many different and diverse points of view. Everything is valid; everything is circumstantial according to one’s own point of view.

Wisdom of Water means not getting stuck on words, definitions, etc. Like water, life seeks balance. And so do we. When we understand that there are endless ways to view each situation, and we use our ability to learn from any outcome, we become like water—we maintain our balance, and gradually, over time, we become wiser than before.

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Spiritual Search

If you have an unexplainable yearning to know the nature of the world in which you live, then Perception vs. Truth is the book for you. To know the world is to know the “I” that you are. It is called self-knowledge, and it can only be known by one’s own wisdom.

Never be satisfied with the answers that come from others. Somehow, we learn to place more faith in the wisdom of others than we do our own. Listen to people, but use their answers as a guideline only.

Perception vs. Truth is about being aware and acknowledging yourself, and by doing so, life will become simple. Enjoy the adventure of your own self and discover the depths within, which can give you the answers you seek. Each of us is the expert of his or her life. Remember, whatever comes from deep within comes in the form of intuition, and you have to become more aware of that intuition, and learn to trust it.

Finally, Perception vs. Truth talks about the Promised Land, which we all reside in.

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Introduction

Illusion

Some say that the vast majority of humans are sleepwalkers—people who live while sleeping. It would be truer to say that they live within an illusion—an illusion of their own individual creation.

Illusion, as one does not know what reality is facing him.

What is the source of it? And how is it created?

If we presume that life is like a dream, we could say that in order to dream, there is a need for a dreamer. There is a correlation between what one thinks and believes, and what one is actually experiencing. The term “illusion” is used because one does not fully comprehend the nature of his/her reality; therefore, we may refer to him/her as being “asleep.” One needs to be “awake” in order to understand. One has to realize that the common denominator in everything that is happening to him/her is simply oneself.

Once you are awakened to the fact that the cause of everything is within you, all your decisions you will make will be directly related to your perspective. Your own perceptions will be determined by this viewpoint. One who succeeds in having no viewpoint at all ought to have a very broad and profound perception. “Ought to” because it is impossible to adopt “no viewpoint” without actually having one. Any effort on someone’s part will constitute adopting a viewpoint; therefore, one is always condemned to remain as he/she is.

Although this paradox seems like a maze with no way out, this is where true liberation resides. True understanding leads to surrender, which in turn leads to freedom. However, when a person wears a mask (a personality, ego), that person cannot be free. Unknowingly, this person values their mask more than their freedom.

The difficulty is how to be free from the mask; free of conditioning.

When someone surrenders to the truth, they stop being dominated by their persona and their viewpoint. A person can give many reasons for liking something but the truth is, we discover what we like; we don’t choose what we like.

Who you truly are and what you love in life is not a matter of choice

About the Author

Eyal Cohen was born in 1968. At the age of thirty, after a powerful and life-changing experience, his perception of reality was transformed completely, and over the next twelve years, he immersed himself in study as he sought to understand what had happened to him. He delved into the philosophies and wisdom behind the teachings of Buddhism, Zen, Taoism, Sufism, Mystic Judaism, Mystic Christianity, and more; and he tried to understand the state of the world by researching numerous leading thinkers of past and present times, such as Noam Chomsky, Friedrich Nietzsche, Socrates, Confucius, to name but a few.
His years of research, combined with his own experiences and knowledge, gave him a unique way of looking at life and the world that we live in. It was this unique perspective that gave birth to the book Perception vs. Truth.
In his first book, Eyal talks about how transformation can be achieved by working on the mind, our thoughts, and beliefs.
Among his associates who are living a “normal life,” Eyal is considered as a “strange, calm character.” He evades frameworks, commitments, and circles of society where there is no room for the free or the different. He surrounded with friends and people who wish to know, taste, and understand the secret of his relaxed charm.
Eyal is like a haven of rest to come to talk, and spend time with. He carries within him intriguing knowledge, which he knows very well to explain. He communicate the truth that he has come to know and understand.
It takes great courage and perseverance to free ourselves from the illusory reality—this confusing world that causes so many problems and so much suffering. We need to open our minds and examine our perceptions and beliefs in depth. The feelings of peace, joy, and freedom are indicators that we on the right track. The book Perception vs. Truth is a means to examine our beliefs about reality and the stories that we tell ourselves, which create our perception of reality and hence create our experiences in life.
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How Learning from Shame Helps Us to Grow
Self-Help
Date Published: May 2020
Publisher: New Rise Press
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Despite what most people believe, shame and self-esteem are not opposites.
“With the skill of a master storyteller, Burgo vividly brings to life, through his clients’ struggles and his own, our shared journey to accept a startling truth: shame can either hobble us or help us thrive; it all depends on what we do with it. Savor this book’s lessons and exercises. You’ll come away with the kind of self-compassion that makes us all better people. “– Dr. Craig Malkin, Lecturer, Harvard Medical School and author of the internationally acclaimed book, Rethinking Narcissism.
Challenging widely-accepted views within the self-esteem movement, author Joseph Burgo argues that self-esteem does NOT thrive in the soil of non-stop praise and encouragement, but rather depends upon setting and meeting goals, living up to the expectations we hold for ourselves, and finally sharing our joy in achievement with the people who matter most to us. Along the way, listening to and learning from our encounters with shame will go further than affirmations and positive self-talk in helping us to build authentic self-esteem.
Richly illustrated with clinical stories from Burgo’s 35 years in private practice, Building Self-Esteem also describes the myriad ways that unacknowledged shame often hides behind a broad spectrum of mental disorders including social anxiety, narcissism, addiction, and masochism
For fans of Brené Brown and John Bradshaw
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Joseph Burgo began writing short stories when he was 12 years old, wrote and published his first fantasy novel with Pocket Books (Simon & Schuster) at the age of 23, and then went on to become a clinical psychologist and author of self-help books. His articles and commentary have appeared in major publications such as The New York Times, The Atlantic, the Washington Post, and USA Today, as well as on sites such as CNN, CNBC, Forbes, Vox, and Glamour. He also contributes regularly to Psychology Today and writes the popular blog After Psychotherapy where he discusses personal growth issues from a psychodynamic perspective.
As a clinician, he has practiced psychotherapy for more than 30 years, holding licenses as a marriage and family therapist and clinical psychologist. He earned his undergraduate degree at UCLA and his masters and doctorate at California Graduate Institute in Los Angeles. He is also a graduate psychoanalyst and has served as a board member, officer and instructor at a component society of the International Psychoanalytic Association. He continues to practice psychotherapy by Skype with clients around the world.
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F-Bomb Affirmations Tour

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Self -help
Date Published: 20.4.20 20th April 2020
Publisher: Change Empire Books
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F-Bomb Affirmations is the self-help book for people who are fed the f•ck up with the same old stories keeping them from reaching their dreams and goals.
In this insightful and entertaining book, self-proclaimed affirmation queen Natalie Stokell breaks down the brain science of why we achieve some of our goals but not others. In 11 easy-to-read chapters, you’ll learn:
• How beliefs are formed from a neuroscience perspective and how these beliefs filter your view of the world
• How to discover what stories are keeping you from reaching your goals, so you can push through these blocks and make some epic sh•t happen in your life
• How your brain works so you can start rewiring it for success and reach your goals faster
• What goals trigger your ‘not good enough’ stories and how to shift this so you can begin to feel worthy to receive
• Why swearing is actually good for you and how you can use it as an effective mindset tool
• How to create affirmations that actually work, so you can use them with confidence and create the life you were meant to live
By the end of F-Bomb Affirmations, you’ll understand how your brain works and how to work it. You’ll have five keys to supercharge your affirmations – and you’ll discover how to immediately start applying these keys to the things you want to be, do, and have in your life.
Everything is possible. Your dreams are within your reach. And you’ve got what it takes.
You are one f•cking incredible human.
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‘Excuse me, excuse me.’ I push my way through the crowd of groupies cluttering the courtyard by the backstage door. There’s some jostling as they hesitate, reluctant to give up the precious spots where they’ve been waiting for who knows how long.

They turn to look at me, at first with disdain – and then, upon seeing what I’m carrying, disdain grudgingly turns to understanding and envy.

Fuck, this is awkward. 

I start to feel nauseated. I can’t believe I am doing this. Maybe I should turn back.

Who the fuck do I think I am? I don’t belong here.

Every cell in my body wants to run, but I resist the urge to turn around and instead continue to put one foot in front of the other, slowly moving through the group towards the front.

Come on, Natalie. Breathe. Use your tools.

I’m having a mental block, and it takes me a moment to run through my usual coping tactics.

Okay, an affirmation.

Ikeep moving forward.

I’ve got this. I’ve got this. I’ve got this.

Nausea still rises. But I keep breathing. Then it dawns on me: now would be a great time to test my new theory about affirmations.

Okay. I’ve fucking got this. I’ve fucking got this. I’ve fucking got this.

Focusing on the power the extra word gives the affirmation, the stormy ocean that is my belly calms, and my energy and confidence surge. I soon reach the front few rows of fans; now I can see the security dude guarding the door. He’s massive and looks like he crushes butterflies for fun.

Shit. Perhaps I should go back? What the fuck am I doing?

But I can only imagine what the groupies’ faces will look like if I turn around. I’m such a people pleaser that the mere thought of their faces, unimpressed by my failure, drives me on.

No. I’ve fucking got this. I’ve fucking got this. I’ve fucking got this.

I push through the last of them. The ones at the front are the hardcore fans; they’ve probably been here since early this morning. I expect them to resist. But they part for me, as if out of respect that I’ve made it this far.

Butterfly crusher sees me and raises an eyebrow.

Okay, game on. Come on. I can fucking do this.

‘Hi,’ I say. ‘Um, I’m here for Justin Timberlake.’ The lie feels clunky in my mouth.

Butterfly crusher says nothing, and so I turn my body slightly so he can see what I’m carrying.

‘Oh, right.’ He looks relieved. He’s probably dealt with a few too many obsessed groupies in his time. ‘For massage. Sure, come on in.’

A rush of endorphins flood my body as I realise that’s the first gatekeeper down.

Hell yes, I’ve fucking got this.

He pushes open the doors, and after manoeuvring myself and my table through them, I find myself at the end of a very long corridor with multiple doors. I recognise the familiar warren of backstage. 

Ah, shite, where to now?

I turn back to the closing doors. Seeing my questioning face, Butterfly Crusher catches a door and holds it open. ‘It’s Joey you’ll be wanting, the tour manager. He’s at the end on the left, name on his door.’

‘Thank you!’ I smile in relief.

Yep, I’ve fucking got this.

Iwalk with confidence into the depths of backstage.

I can hear what’s possibly a sound check going on in the belly of the building. There’s a buzz of pre-show adrenaline in the air. People dressed predominantly in black jeans with oversized black tees and sporting hair overdue for a haircut nod at me and say hello in voices out of an American sitcom. I smile and return the greeting, feeling a bit like I am in an American sitcom myself.

The last door on the left has an askew laminated sign attached to it reading ‘Joey’. I try not to look too closely at the naked cartoon man that someone has drawn in the corner.

The door is ajar, but I knock anyway.

‘Yep, come in!’ the sitcom voice calls from within. I push open the door to find a man sitting behind a makeshift desk, wearing – surprise! – a black t-shirt and in need of a haircut.

‘Hey, Joey,’ I say, ‘I’m checking in to see if anyone’s needing massage tonight.’

Please don’t let this be all in vain.

‘Oh yeah, cool, sure.’ Joey gets to his feet. ‘Let me find you a space to set up in. That would be great.’

Boom, second gatekeeper down! Hell yeah, I’ve fucking got this.

Joey finds me a small room that’s not in use and I set up, putting out some of my own laminated signs to direct people to me.

Iwish I could tell you that I did in fact get my hands on Justin Timberlake that night, but it was mainly crew and his band. Big American roadies who asked for deep pressure and then took it back when they felt my strength, making jokes about how they hadn’t realised they’d be beaten up by a woman today. And small, toned dancers, their overworked bodies hungry for a therapeutic touch.

Ileft that evening with my pockets full of cash and, more importantly, my confidence flying. Not only had I done something completely out of my comfort zone – I had nailed it.

Back when I lived in London, I massaged musicians backstage and celebrities in their penthouses weekly, through the company I was contracted to. Here in Australia, I didn’t have the backing of the company, and I missed the work and the money. When I heard Justin Timberlake was playing Brisbane, I wondered who of my colleagues might have been assigned to him in London. Then I thought why not me, here, in Australia? Could I just turn up and wing it?

This thought reflected the shift which had been happening within me recently. Since becoming a mother, I’d found my fierce. The lioness within me had awakened: the mama bear, the protector.

This fierceness was echoed in my journaling, my thoughts, in the workings of my inner world, and now it was manifesting in my outer world. I was doing things I hadn’t thought myself capable of.

And I started colouring all parts of my life with this shift. This mama was claiming her space in the world. This mama was making shit happen. 

Specifically, my affirmations. I had started dropping an F-bomb into my affirmations.

And fuck, did it work! My affirmations felt stronger, fiercer, more reachable. It was like giving them a turbo boost.

They felt awesome.

But let’s back-track for a moment. Let’s go back to when I first found and fell in love with affirmations. Let’s go back to that decade when Paula Abdul was playing on every ghetto blaster, and no top was complete without shoulder pads.

Let’s go back to the late ’80s:

About the Author

Natalie Stokell lives and plays on the Sunshine Coast, Australia, with her partner, their two children, nine chickens, and seven alpacas. She has a master’s degree in psychology and has used affirmations for years to create the life of her dreams. Her affirmation recordings on SoundCloud have had over 219,317 plays. In this kickass book, she shares all her tips so that you too can change your life. You can find out more and connect with her at www.fbombaffirmations.com.
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A Truth About… Blitz

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Non Fiction / Self-Help / Motivational / Personal Development
Date Published: 19th of January 2020 (ebook) – Paperback
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“A Truth About…” is a composition of 52 poems for nurturing your ever -growing soul. Exploring topic from mind, body and intuition to love, parenting and life goals, the book embraces the broad and wondrous spectrum of the human experience. Covering 52 keys areas of our life, this book provides one insight per week. A year of inspiring poetry.
          
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A Truth About

YOURSELF

Who are you?

Or who do you think you are?

Do you truly know yourself? Do you, really?

So do you know you are a winner?

Do you realize you have won your first race and then claimed your life as the prize?

They say a leopard can’t change his spots;

thus, born a winner, you ought to live as a winner;

you have to accomplish, you have to achieve.

How can you achieve if you do not take on challenges? You need to dare.

How can you win if you do not start the race? You need to choose your lane,

Though unlike your first race

you do not need to win at the cost of others’ failures.

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The Decisions We Make Tour

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How Our Decisions Produce Success in Our Lives
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In the Decisions We Make, readers will learn a new mindset that will help make their dreams and goals a reality.
Most of us don’t know how important it is to make the proper decisions. Good decisions can make our lives run smoothly. Unfortunately, we often repeat our mistakes. Even though we know the likely outcome, we hope for different results.
The decisions we make in our lives affect our jobs, relationships, and financial situations. They also affect our mental health. Everything that happens to us in life is a direct result of our decisions we have made. Once we understand the effects of our decisions, we can then reap the rewards of making quality decisions that propel our lives forward instead of holding us back.
Some decisions can be destructive and change our lives in seconds with no chance of recovery. It is important to understand the value of making proper decisions. They can literally mean the difference between life and death.
Praise for The Decisions We Make:
“This book examines some important points regarding decisions and decision-making. The author begins by defining a decision as a choice made after thinking about it. The thinking process required to make any decision will be influenced by our beliefs and priorities. Priorities need to be considered at all times; merely depending on what happens will lead to our being controlled by our environment instead of controlling it….Small, at just 24 pages and almost pocket-sized, his book could be kept in a purse or car to help readers when a tough situation arises, offering a reminder to consider priorities and beliefs and take charge of one’s life in positive ways. It might also be useful in facilitating a discussion group on the subject of making positive choices and decisions.” – The US Review of Books
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“In order to be productive in the world and make a difference in your life and the lives of others, you have to make quality decisions that will alter your life in a positive way. This will cause others to see the goodness that has been placed in your life. More often than not, our poor decisions hold us back from receiving what we are supposed to get in life. Making the right kinds of decisions moves us closer to happiness and peace of mind.”

 

 

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Travis Towns is the founder and president of Feel Good Poems and the author of “The Decisions We Make”. He is a God-fearing man who believes that each person deserves to live the life that he or she desires. He lives in Philadelphia, and he is maximizing his decision-making potential so that he can teach others how to effectively make quality decisions that will take their lives to the next level.

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