It seems that after all the drama of my Grandmother’s stroke is in the past and the rehabilitation I still in progress and this makes her third rehab place that she has been put in. Family that you come to depend on helping in taking some of the load has suddenly stopped helping or coming by as often as they did. I don’t know if this is them thinking that she will not get any better than she is right now or they have suddenly gotten too busy to help out. If it is the first, then I would like them to take a moment and reflect on all the setbacks that my Grandmother has gone through that has halted a lot of her rehabilitation time. She has had c-dif, dehydration, first stages of pneumonia, a bedsore that has not healed because of neglect, 2 different types of infections, and a kidney infection. One of the infections was one that she had to be hospitalized because it was antibiotic resistant and had to be treated by IV antibiotic fluids. The bedsore could have been healed by now if one of the places did not let her sit in her own feces for 2 hours, in which caused bacteria to get into the bedsore and make worse.
My mom and my aunt can not do it alone. They also have my cousin who is my aunt’s daughter who also checks on my grandmother and helps out. Now today my mother went up there early this morning and took my grandfather, and this evening she asked one of my uncles to take my grandfather to see my grandmother. He was to call my grandfather, he never called and my mom took my grandfather to see my grandmother. If my uncles besides the one that is helping already would just help out one or two days a week this would help the others take a break. They are getting burned out an it is taking an emotional and physical toll. Something has to give before my mother has a total meltdown. When that happens all hell will break loose and I don’t want to be around when it happens. That saying when David Banner tells people who “You won’t like me when I get angry!” That is my Mom. For when she gets mad it is not a pretty site and it is usually hard to get her back in control.
If family would just help out more it would be better for all. Also if they would educate themselves more on stroke victims and how it affects them, they would know that when they are stressed or have a high level of anxiety, they will progress a lot slower on their therapy. So there is my ranting for the day, I will go back to reading and writing on my book. I will talk with you later and remember May is National Stroke Awareness Month. Until tomorrow.
Today Grandma had a busy day. My Aunt made arrangements to have the lady who usually cuts my grandma’s hair to come to her room at the west campus in Midland. My Grandmother was so excited to get her hair cut. She is doing better and better every day, Now that she is out of that place she was at. II don’t know when, it could be tomorrow. She is being transferred to Stanton at a Rehabilitation facility there. She has been having more spasticity in her arm and leg. They have her on muscle relaxers so it won’t be so painful for her.
With all the setbacks that she has had, infections, dehydration, pneumonia, and abuse, she has not had a lot of therapy on left her arm, and leg. Since she has been at the west campus, she has done a lot better. She has had the feeding tube removed from her stomach, and is eating solid food. It is either cut real small or is soft enough so that she can chew or swallow it easily without getting choked. Her left arm has moved on it’ own twice. This is good news. It means that the brain is trying to wakeup or make new pathways. This means that one day that she could suddenly just move her arm. That is why she needs the therapy to keep the muscles from becoming stiff and atrophy, so when it does happen she can move her arm.
If you set limits on yourself, you will never go beyond those limits and get better. If you tell yourself hat you will walk and move your arm one day. YOU WILL DO IT. You will have set backs along the way, that is only expected. The brain an heal itself if given the right tools to do it with, Nutrition, vitamins and minerals, exercise. There is still a lot we don’t know about the brain, or how it can heal itself. All I know right now is that I am happy that I still have my Grandmother still with us. So anyone in the family who reads this would like to visit her when she does get moved to the Stanton facility, It is called Stanton Nursing and Rehabilitation.
At close to 2pm when my Mother was on the phone with my Grandmother to see if wouldn’t mind having a buttermilk chess pie, one of the nurses or aides told my Grandmother to shut her damn mouth. My Mom left out of here telling us to make sure to have enough money to bail her out if needed. By the time my Mom had arrived at the facility, my Grandfather had taken care of the problem.
He had walked down to the manager’s office and let them know that he almost knocked down one of their employees for what she had said. The manager told him that they will take care of it and look into it. My Grandfather was fuming ma ,because he was in the room when this happened. This is the first time that we know of that she has been verbally abused. It will be the last time. I think we still have family trickling up there after hearing about this incident. They have been a little rough when they had to change her and when they get her out of bed, so now they must have two people and use a hoist. They also have to have two people to change her also.
My Grandmother lets them know when they are a little rough with her. It doesn’t go on very long before it gets reported. Nobody hurts one of our family and gets away with it. If you are having problems at work or at home , you DO NOT TAKE IT OUT ON YOUR PATIENTS. They cannot defend themselves and some of them don’t see family for years. It is not worth losing your job over it. You are there to help them, not to harm them. So I will step down off my soap box now. Other than this incident, my Grandmother is doing well and improving daily.
I thought I would give you an update on my grandmother before I go into work. She has pneumonia, an it is in the first stages. So they caught it soon enough that she will recover pretty quickly. Th familiarize of mad at the place she is at,because she is not getting the THERAPY she is supposed to like at Health South. They only give her therapy once a day. Where at Health South she was having therapy twice a day. They where also sitting her up and moving her so she would not get pneumonia.
So they to this other place that they need to start moving her more and giving her therapy at least twice a st. They were giving excuses, that she would probably never be able to move her arm or leg. My Mom had to set them straight and tell them that she is doing better than she did in the hospital.That now she can hold her head up, and she can move her foot,and she could not close her eye and now she can. She is doing a lot better now than then. We will see if things get better after this butt chewing that they have gotten, and by somebody else at the rehab place. Well I have to finish getting ready for work, talk with everyone later.
Coconut Cream Pie (Photo credit: I Believe I Can Fry)
Hopefully everyone is having a great start to the New Year? We had family over for barbecue, potato salad, black-eyed peas, macaroni and cheese, homemade rolls, cabbage, 3-berry cobbler, and coconut cream pie,(also homemade). We all ate so much that we made ourselves sick. The kids played rock band and did some singing. We watched some movies, and mom took my brother, his wife and my grandfather to see my grandmother. She is almost ready to do some standing, they are also letting her eat some soup and when she does eat they disconnect the feeding tube to see how she does. So far she is doing great. Here lately she has been a pistol, she will let you know what is on her mind.
She did get a bed sore, but the nurse is making sure that it is being taken care of. She doesn’t have the infection anymore , so that is one less thing to worry about. I have started working in the photo lab at work, and I do not like it. I would rather go back to doing back to what I was doing. It is slow and the printing machines are always broken down. It is very frustrating. We are always having customer complaints because of the machines being down and the pictures are not being done. I am getting the hang of the register and the site-to-store part. There is still some things I need to learn, but I don’t like the constant standing. It really makes my knee and back hurt. It is very painful. Some days it is a 2 painkiller day.
I am hoping I can lose the weight that the doctor wants me to lose so that I can have my knee surgery. Now that the holidays are over, I can concentrate on losing the weight. Well I am starting to fall asleep it has been a long day, and I need to take a shower to wash off the smell of smoke from the barbecue pit. I will talk with everyone tomorrow, and have a Happy New Year.