WHEN YOU THINK YOU HAVE FAMILY TO COUNT ON THEY LET YOU DOWN. :(

It seems that after all the drama of my Grandmother’s stroke is in the past and the rehabilitation I still in progress and this makes her third rehab place that she has been put in. Family that you come to depend on helping in taking some of the load  has suddenly stopped helping or coming by as often as they did. I don’t know if this is them thinking that she will not get any better than she is right now or they have suddenly gotten too busy to help out. If it is the first, then I would like them to take a moment and reflect on all the setbacks that my Grandmother has gone through that has halted a lot of her rehabilitation time. She has had c-dif, dehydration, first stages of pneumonia, a bedsore that has not healed because of neglect, 2 different types of infections, and a kidney infection. One of the infections was one that she had to be hospitalized because it was antibiotic resistant and had to be treated by IV antibiotic fluids. The bedsore could have been healed by now if one of the places did not let her sit in her own feces for 2 hours, in which caused bacteria to get into the bedsore and make worse.

My mom and my aunt can not do it alone. They also have my cousin who is my aunt’s daughter who also checks on my grandmother and helps out. Now today my mother went up there early this morning and took my grandfather, and this evening she asked one of my uncles to take my grandfather to see my grandmother. He was to call my grandfather, he never called and my mom took my grandfather to see my grandmother. If my uncles besides the one that is helping already would just help out one or two days a week this would help the others take a break. They are getting burned out an it is taking an emotional and physical toll. Something has to give before my mother has a total meltdown. When that happens all hell will break loose and I don’t want to be around when it happens. That saying when David Banner tells people who “You won’t like me when I get angry!” That is my Mom. For when she gets mad it is not a pretty site and it is usually hard to get her back in control.

If family would just help out more it would be better for all. Also if they would educate themselves more on stroke victims and how it affects them, they would know that when they are stressed or have a high level of anxiety, they will progress a lot slower on their therapy. So there is my ranting for the day, I will go back to reading and writing on my book.  I will talk with you later and remember May is National Stroke Awareness Month. Until tomorrow.

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4 Responses to WHEN YOU THINK YOU HAVE FAMILY TO COUNT ON THEY LET YOU DOWN. :(

  1. My prayers are with you. I have been down the same road. Nursing homes are the pits unless you can afford a private nurse and then there is no guarantee of care. I am so sorry to hear what a rough time you are having. I pray your grandmother will get better soon.

  2. Thank you for sharing my recent post, but really THANK YOU for sharing your story. We’re never as alone as we think….you might like this older post about my grandmother (and the two that follow it). http://jaimestathis.wordpress.com/2013/11/03/smile-though-your-heart-is-breaking/

    CHEERS to you! xo